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I last updated Lehrer und Schule on MO 19Oct2020.

I last updated Tagebuch (Diary) on SAT 17Oct2020.

I have migrated from a WordPress hosted BLOG to my own self hosted website.

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This new Blog starting from July 2020 will continue my digital publishing on Education and Life Skills and more like how to Master Your German.

Here a Grammar textbook free to be downloaded for you to study regularly – all explained very well!

I will further continue to work on the promotion of the German Language and culture and people and business and more.

My background is German, but having lived and worked in Germany, Namibia and Australia for more than 40 years now, I am still an avid reader and active blogger though retired now.

I live mostly at the Gold Coast in QLD Australia, but visit my family and friends in Germany regularly every year: And I am still a German resident and citizen, but have acquired Australian citizenship as well: Thank you, Australia!

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From Sokrates and his wife to other examples of male and female argumentation and fights and emotional disruptios and turmoil or in a nutshell: Why too many relationships finally fail.

What is TIME? More here …


About me: More about my background …and pathways plus options in life.


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The German phrase “Der Ton macht die Musik” translates to “It’s not what you say, but how you say it” in English 123. Let’s explore its deeper meaning through illustrations:

Piano history and musical performance
  1. Musical Performance: Imagine a musician playing a beautiful melody on a piano. The notes themselves (the words spoken) are essential, but it’s the way they are played (the tone) that creates the emotional impact. A wrong note can disrupt the entire piece, just as a harsh tone can affect communication.
  1. Conversation: Consider a conversation between two people. The content of their words matters, but the tone—the way they express themselves—shapes the interaction. A gentle tone conveys kindness, while a harsh tone can lead to misunderstandings or hurt feelings.
  1. Professional Settings: In business or professional contexts, the tone matters greatly. A respectful and diplomatic tone can build positive relationships, whereas a rude or dismissive tone can damage them.
  1. Parenting: Parents often emphasize the importance of tone when teaching their children. Saying “please” with a pleasant tone encourages cooperation, while a demanding tone can lead to resistance.
  1. Writing and Art: Writers and artists understand this concept too. The tone of a novel, poem, or painting sets the mood and influences the audience’s perception.

Remember, it’s not just the words we choose, but also how we deliver them—the tone—that truly makes an impact. So, whether in music, conversation, or life, pay attention to your tone—it’s where the magic lies! 🎵🗣️

Here we go … never understood the deeper meaning of this before!

Most people all over the world would agree fighting is bad! For sure! No doubts, But many regrets, later!

But why do we all fight at all, or better are drawn back into fighting with people we like and love?

Here an example to start with, in fact a quote:

Found via SZ App in German: Impressive, indeed! Only copied 10% of this brilliant interview … (phb),

Julie Gottman : We don’t even dream of that. People who do this are misinformed. This is also why we wrote our book, which is about how conflicts can actually be a silver bullet for understanding your partner and feeling closer to them. Most people don’t know how to argue. That’s why many people want to avoid conflict – they think it’s bad for a relationship. But the opposite is true. They are even good for a relationship if you argue properly.

So you’re still arguing after 37 years of marriage?

Julie Gottman : Yes, and we’re proud that we argue, because it’s all about how you do it. If an argument becomes a battle of who wins and who loses, it won’t work because both partners usually have valid points of view. If one tries to win, both lose. For an argument to be productive, they must avoid the four horsemen of the apocalyptic: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and walls. Instead, couples should dig deeper by asking each other questions. For example: What values ​​or ethics are associated with your position on this issue? Is there a backstory or a childhood episode that influences your stance here? Why is the topic so important to you? What are your feelings about this? What does your dream look like at this point?

The two biggest problems when starting a conversation are criticism and contempt.

And there are a few more, for sure …

More excerpts will follow here soon!

About Male and Female and how they are wired.

Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus.

Peter H Bloecker

Updated Sun 11 Feb 2025


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“Gender Differences in Brain Wiring: Debunking Myths and Unraveling Complexities.”

Part 1: Introduction

  • Hook: Begin with an attention-grabbing anecdote or a surprising fact related to gender differences.
  • Background: Briefly introduce the concept of brain wiring and its relevance to understanding gender differences.
  • Thesis Statement: State your main argument: “While men and women exhibit distinct neural patterns, it is essential to recognize the interplay between nature and nurture in shaping these differences.”

Part 2: Debunking Myths

Myth 1: “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus”

  • Explanation: Discuss the historical belief that men and women are fundamentally different due to their brain organization.
  • Evidence: Reference studies that challenge this oversimplified view. For instance, the recent Stanford Medicine study1 demonstrates that sex differences exist but are nuanced.
  • Takeaway: Emphasize that brain structures do not neatly align with gender stereotypes.

Myth 2: “Hardwired Gender Roles”

Part 3: Unraveling Complexities

Nature vs. Nurture

  • Nature: Discuss hormonal influences during prenatal development and puberty. Acknowledge that sex chromosomes play a role.
  • Nurture: Explore how upbringing, culture, and socialization impact brain development.
  • Intersectionality: Recognize that gender differences intersect with other factors (race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status).
  • Holistic View: Advocate for a holistic understanding that considers both biology and environment.


  • Recap: Summarize key points from each section.
  • Call to Action: Encourage further research and open dialogue.
  • Challenge: The audience is invited to engage in nuanced discussions beyond binary viewpoints.


Let’s delve now into the intriguing world of time concepts and miscommunications within male and female partnerships.

Time Concepts and Miscommunications in Male-Female Partnerships


Time is a fascinating dimension that shapes our lives, relationships, and interactions. In the context of male-female partnerships, time concepts play a crucial role in communication. However, miscommunications often arise due to differing perceptions and expectations related to time. In this essay, we explore how gender influences time-related communication and the implications it has for relationships.

Gendered Communication Styles

  1. Verbal Aspects:
  • Men: Traditionally, men tend to be more direct and concise in their communication. They value efficiency and often view time as a finite resource. Their conversations may revolve around tasks, goals, and problem-solving.
  • Women: Women often emphasize connection and rapport. They use language to build relationships and express emotions. Their conversations may involve sharing experiences, feelings, and personal stories.
  1. Nonverbal Aspects:
  • Touch and Proximity:
    • Men: Cultural norms often discourage men from physical closeness with other men. Consequently, they may maintain more personal space.
    • Women: Females are exposed to touch from infancy, fostering emotional connections. Women tend to be more accepting of touch and initiate it more frequently.
  • Time Perception:
    • Men: Linear time orientation—focused on schedules, deadlines, and efficiency.
    • Women: Relational time orientation—prioritizing connections, shared experiences, and emotional moments.

Miscommunications and Challenges

  1. Time Expectations:
  • Scenario: A couple plans a date night. The man expects punctuality, while the woman values the anticipation and emotional buildup.
  • Result: Misalignment—she arrives late, he feels frustrated.
  1. Time Allocation:
  • Scenario: A busy day—work, chores, family responsibilities. The woman seeks emotional connection; the man wants downtime.
  • Result: She feels unheard; he feels overwhelmed.
  1. Time for Conversations:
  • Scenario: After a long day, the woman wants to talk about feelings. The man prefers silence or distraction.
  • Result: She feels neglected; he feels pressured.

Navigating Time Differences

  1. Awareness:
  • Recognize that time concepts vary. Understand your partner’s time orientation and preferences.
  • Communicate openly about expectations regarding punctuality, leisure, and emotional availability.
  1. Flexibility:
  • Adapt to each other’s time styles. Find a balance between efficiency and emotional connection.
  • Be patient when miscommunications occur.
  1. Empathy:
  • Understand that time-related stressors affect both partners. Show empathy and validate feelings.
  • Prioritize quality time over quantity.


Time is a multifaceted dimension that intertwines with our identities, emotions, and relationships. By appreciating the nuances of gendered time communication, we can bridge gaps, foster understanding, and create stronger male-female partnerships. Remember, time is not just a ticking clock; it’s an opportunity to connect, learn, and grow together.

¹: Daniel Usera & contributing authors, “5.3: Gendered Differences in Communication,” Social Sci LibreTexts, source.
²: Julia Wood (2009), “Gender Communication: It’s Complicated,” Psychology Today, source.
³: “Gender Issues: Communication Differences in Interpersonal Relationships,” Ohioline, source.

Source: Conversation with Bing, 3/3/2024
(1) 5.3: Gendered Differences in Communication – Social Sci LibreTexts.
(2) Gender Communication: It’s Complicated | Psychology Today.
(3) Gender Issues: Communication Differences in Interpersonal … – Ohioline.


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